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Hi Sara. I can certainly sympathize with you.
I recently had a situation occur where I needed to reintroduce our cats (mama and daughter) due to redirected aggression. I was able to separate these two (upstairs cat/downstairs cat) for safety but the reintroduction period dragged on into four weeks where neither would approach the see-through barrier if the other one was there. Ultimately, I tried applying Feliway spray to the barrier which must have really been an attractant because both girls were drawn to it. They, at least, began looking at each other.
My next step was territory swapping (kind of) where mama got confined to a bedroom and daughter was allowed the run of the house for most of the day and they could get almost nose-to-nose through the bedroom door. (Daughter had been confined to the downstairs rooms)
This went on for a few days with no hissing or growling so I opened the barrier and just sat with my downstairs girl and let mama come down to explore. Oddly enough this went without incident and the next day I opened the barrier and left it open.
That was a couple of weeks ago and these two have resumed their original relationship with no more conflict.
I really think it was the territory swapping that was the turning point for us.
It’s so distressing when introductions seem to drag on. I hope your fur babies will find some common ground and build a peaceful relationship. It sounds like you’ve been doing all the right things.